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Today blog post is about are you feeling comfortable with other people’s views on you. If you are someone who is actually persuing success, it is very importable to be aware of whether you are taking in people’s views on you. We all know that we should not take it too hard of how people view on us as it will be very busy for us to keep track of all kind of views from so many people. We must be self aware of our own behavior and whatever we do, we must be comfortable without having to care so much about how other people are viewing on us. If you are currently persuing your own success, you might feel uncomfortable about what your friends or relatives will think if you are not doing what regular people are doing. Examples are like persuing a career that most people will not go into or not working in a normal 9 to 5 job and setting up your own business instead.

I have friends who will ask me why I did not want to continue my studies and I should not persue what I am persuing right now as it might be risky towards my own future. They are saying the same old thing like the old generation mentioned, study hard, get a degree and find a good job after that. However, do they know that a lot of people are unemployed even after they got a degree or they are not doing what they are loved even after graduation. Initially, I am quite uncomfortable about their views on what I am doing and I am wondering why as friends, they did not provide the support I need but give comments when they did not try it before. Even if they have tried it before, it doesn’t mean that I cannot achieve if they did not achieve in the first place. From some research that I read from some books, I realized that it is very common for friends or relatives to give comments when they feel uncomfortable with the ideas of us venturing into something new that they have not explored before. However, we must stand firm to our own ideas and not like other people influence our decision of what we want to do.

Recently, I have a funny incident that happened to me that made me realize something about my views on how people view at me. I went out of my house without being aware that I wore my Polo T-shirt in the opposite way of inside out. I didn’t realize it until when I feel that my collar is a bit weird. After realizing that I have wore my Polo T-shirt inside out, my mind starts to wonder of what people will view of me or laugh at me. However, I message my girlfriend about this incident and she mentioned something that kick me out of my uncomfortable state. In her message, she mentioned that why do I have to feel weird when I am still considered of having my clothes on. It is true that we should not take other people’s view too hard on ourselves as people will not care so much after giving the particular remarks or comments as once they are back to their normal life, they will forget about what remarks or comments they have given previously. Therefore, no point taking other people’s views or remarks about us too hard on ourselves. If you want to have a taste of feeling the inner feeling of how people look at you and hear the inner voice in yourself, you might want to try out the exercise of doing something weird like what I accidentally did to myself by wearing your shirt in the opposite way.

Hope you are firm with your own decision and not be influence by other people’s point of views. Persist and you will definitely achieve what you want in life.